Personal success has always been important to me because of my desire to "prove that I can". I remember a young boy telling me in grade school that I was stupid because I had a white mother and a black father. That was tough to hear as a child and I didn't understand why he felt that way, or who else felt that way. From that point on, I lived my life in a state of constant fear that I just would not be good enough for anyone unless I worked hard enough to get the best grades, the most awards and the most recognition. That is not the way we are meant to live.
I spent my college years working in a Corporate role and completed my MBA while continuing the struggle to truly find my place. After I was able to identify the motivations I had to do so much more, I began to realize that I could not continue living my life for other people. I had to begin living for myself, and that is the best decision that I have ever made. Life is too short to live anything less than your absolute best.
We should live our lives full of intention and own our happiness. Now is the time to unleash your fears, dream bigger, and become your best self. THIS realization has led me to my personal mission statement:
To develop and cultivate the qualities of confidence, inspiration, and overall well-being so that I am able to live each day with success and enjoy life to the fullest. I will do this by leading with daily intention, eliminating negative habits, and giving selflessly to enrich not only my life, but also the lives of those around me.
Why do we need a personal mission statement?
A personal mission statement provides clarity and gives you a sense of purpose. It defines who you are and how you will live. As I write this, I am freshly 31 years old and I realized that I failed myself in promises that I made when I was 29. I told myself that "when I'm 30, I will do XYZ", and while some of those things happened, the BIGGER goals I had fell tragically short. I promised that I would "get out there more", that I would take action and publish an online course, and be more consistent in providing more value. I think that I have done some of that, but not in the way that I wanted to. And - I still need to launch my online course. That's what's weighs on me the most, honestly.
You might ask, "if it's so important to you and is weighing on you so much, why haven't you done it?" I've asked myself the same thing and I realized that it's because I didn't have a clear view of what my true mission was. I hadn't really thought about it much. I knew that I had valuable content that I wanted to get out and share with the world, but I wasn't clear on a few things such as why I wanted to do this, how it was going to happen, and what I ultimately wanted to share with people. Until I sat down and completed this exercise, I don't think that it would have been possible for me to take any action.
It starts with some self-assessment. Let me break down for you HOW I derived this statement and the three (3) steps that you need to take to do the same.
Ask yourself these questions and answer them authentically:
1. What are you truly hoping to accomplish?
To develop and cultivate the qualities of confidence, inspiration, and overall well-being so that I am able to live each day with success and enjoy life to the fullest.
2. How will you do this?
I will do this by leading with daily intention, eliminating negative habits, and giving selflessly...
3. Why/how is this going to help/serve other people?
...to enrich not only my life, but also the lives of those around me.
There is a great (and free!) Mission Statement Builder tool that FranklinCovey offers that I highly recommend doing if you have about 30 minutes to focus on this and really want to dig deeper.
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Brittanni Below, MBA is a coach, speaker, and trainer based in Houston, TX that provides services to help fierce and self-driven women to live a more balanced, healthy, and more fulfilling life. By fully understanding your unique talents and gifts and what is distracting you from being successful, Brittanni helps you transform fear, lack of confidence, and life challenges, into lessons that push you to crush the goals that you've set for yourself. If you're interested in personal coaching, book a session with Brittanni here.